Happiness is created from your own thoughts, words, and actions. It does not mean everything in life is perfect, it means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections. It is more than just a state of mind; it is a choice you make.
This year I have been focusing on my personal growth. I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone and exposing myself to the endless opportunities life has to offer. Lately, I’ve been feeling AMAZING and I am loving every second of it. I feel so strong and filled with positive energy. I wanted to share 10 things I’ve done that have improved my self-worth and increased my own happiness in hopes it will inspire you to explore yourself and find more joy in your life. Enjoy!
1. Forgive & Let Go
We have all been hurt before in one way or another. Shit does in fact hit the fan for each of us every now and then; but don’t get stuck hanging there. Learn from the past, but also leave it there. It does not define the person you chose to be today. Let go of all that doesn’t suit you and forgive those who have damaged you. There is no reason to hold onto to something that is gone. Life only moves in one direction. (which is forward)
What I did for myself: It meant letting go of the person who I think people perceive me as. (sounds confusing) I get so caught up in the negative aspects on my journey of life. I think of that time I made that one bad choice or the embarrassing mistake. I used to worry about those single incidents and the impressions they left on those around me. But in all reality, you can never let one day or choice define who you are. you can’t control (or know) what other people are thinking, saying, or doing. I decided to let go of all the judgements I was creating of myself and others. There is no point to get caught up in what other people think of me, it serves zero purpose in defining who I am.
2. Stop Limiting Yourself
Stop living in fear and saying, “I can’t”. Easier said than done, but remember that life has SOOO much to offer. How are you ever going to experience it all if you don’t step out of your comfort zone or take the chance on something different? The possibilities are endless! Create your own path and don’t follow the crowd. If there is something you are passionate about, you have every right to go for it.
What I did for myself: “I can’t” was always my go to statement whenever my comfort level was challenged. I used to think that I wasn’t capable of achieving anything great, but I was very wrong. It all starts with clearing the mental block that holds you back. One day, when you choose to say “I can”, the barrier breaks down and doors begin to open. The feeling of trying something is so much more rewarding than refusing to step outside the box. I am constantly working towards changing the limitations I mentally create for myself. I can do whatever my heart desires if I work hard.
3. Sing & Dance It Out
Music heals the soul, gives the body a tingle sensation, and increases joy in many people. But why are people so shy and timid when it comes to feeling the beat in every day settings? It doesn’t matter if you can’t carry a tune or dance like a professional; music is meant to run through the body so just let it.
What I did for myself: I know I suck at singing, and I know I get the words wrong. I know my dance moves are not up to par, but I don’t ever let that stop me from surrendering myself to the music. I used to get embarrassed and not sing in front of people. I used to get secondhand embarrassment for those types of people who just break out in dance in public. But now I am one of those people and let me tell you it feels amazing to just vibe out to your favorite jam whenever the hell you want too. Let it happen people, I know we all want to live our lives like a musical.
4. Create A Mantra
Mantras are an amazing tool for reminding yourself that you are capable of anything. Creating a statement to mentally refer back too in times of doubt, stress, fear, and anger does in fact make a difference in the way you think during those weak moments. It’s not selfish to remind yourself that you are an amazing person who deserves nothing but love and happiness.
What I did for myself: I freaking love my mantra. I tell myself it all the time, even when I am feeling like a bad ass. My mantra is, “I AM ENOUGH”. This statement ignites a fire in my soul and makes me feel worthy of all the great things life has to offer. It’s my “go to” reminder that mentally eliminates the pressure I put on myself. My mantra reminds me that I don’t always need to do more in order to be happy.
5. Get A Little Sweaty
Release what ever is holding you back not only mentally but physically. The human body works best when you take care of all aspects of it. (mind, body, soul). Surrender your emotions to whatever activity you enjoy. Let the toxins physically sweat out, let fresh oxygen flow through the body, and push yourself a little further. The after benefits of “getting sweaty” leaves you feeling refreshed!
What I did for myself: I make time to get “sweaty” weekly because I know I am an emotional person and sometimes it’s a lot easier to work through whatever is going through my head in the physical form then to just sit around and let it gather up mentally. I love the natural high I receive from an intense circuit, hot yoga, and even a neighborhood jog. Something about just creating a space to work hard and take care of my physical body makes me feel like a warrior. I feel like physical activity helps me strengthen my mental health.
6. Eat The Right Foods
Like I’ve said in previous posts, what you put into your body reflects what comes out. It is crucial to fuel your body with Whole Foods like fruits and veggies! It’s really important to limit your sugar and artificial food fillers intake. Now a days, there are endless resources to find foods that are better for your body. I’ve learned that small changes make a huge difference and that everything is okay in moderation. Eating right shouldn’t be stressful because it is a lot easier than you think. You just need to put the time in at first and the body adjusts so quickly! You don’t realize how shitty some foods make you feel until you cut them out and start feeling better.
What I did for myself: I recently have been limiting my processed food intake. (I’ve even been eating less lucky charms!) I also have elimited dairy from my diet, which has made a huge difference! I bloat less, have more energy, and just feel lighter. I also try to only eat out once a week. This way I am forced to prepare meals and take them on the go. My next step is to create more vegan friendly meals to increase my vegetable intake in yummy and creative ways.
7. Spend Time Alone
You can still be a “people” person and spend time alone. Spending time alone is actually a very relaxing activity that makes you a stronger person. Spending time alone doesn’t mean sitting in silence staring at the wall. It can be driving with the music off, reading a book in the corner of the coffee shop, folding your laundry with your bedroom door closed. Alone time is when you create a space to get lost in thought, where you let yourself become creative. Taking the time for sit in quietness all alone is very powerful. It can be difficult sometimes, but once you let go of wanting to control the situation you find peace and quite very easily.
What I did for myself: When I spend time with myself, the craziness in my thoughts calm down because I block everyone else out and just focus in on me. It’s not a selfish thing to do, but it is so important for my sanity. My favorite alone time is when I am in my room with my essential oil diffuser on and the lights dim. Another way I enjoy my alone time is when I’m out in public alone. I can almost do everything and anything by myself; I love going shopping alone, to the pool alone, and even to the local Starbucks alone. It took time to find my alone time when I am constantly surrounded by others, but it’s possible to achieve the feeling even when you aren’t physically alone. Sometimes I want the alone time in my room and other days I just want to spend the day doing the things I love alone. It really makes me feel strong and independent.
8. Get Lost In A Book
Reading isn’t everyone’s favorite thing (including mine) but it is an outlet for discovery, freedom, knowledge, and fun. The possibilities within a book are endless and there is sometime out there for everyone to enjoy. Reading grants each of the chance to expose ourselves to whole new worlds and ideas. It shouldn’t be something millennials like myself should ignore and look over. It is truly more satisfying than watching endless hours of Netflix. (In my opinion of course)
What I did for myself: I actually picked up a book for the first time in years and began to read for fun. To be honest I never read things for school that I am supposed too, so to read by choice was a huge stepping stone in my self growth journey. Since picking up that book at the start of this summer, I’ve read three more. What I’ve learned is that reading is so much more rewarding when you choose things that interest you. (I guess that’s why reading hit series and best-selling novels never worked out for me because I enjoy nonfiction more!)
9. De-clutter Your Assets
You don’t need that. It’s not necessary. Today our worlds are filled with so many products and promotions that make it so easy to stock up on things not needed. In order to be happy, you don’t need so many physical things. Go through your belongings; there are so many things each of us have that clutter our lives. Donate it, sell it, recycle it. There are many possibilities when it comes to clearing out your closest.
What I did for myself: To be completely honest, I am an organized hoarder. I keep everything. Now that I am preparing to move, I feel overwhelmed by the number of things I have. As I start to box of my memories from the past, I’m learning that I have so much more than I need. Getting rid of things that I’ve been holding on too “just in case” makes me feel so much lighter. I don’t need my second grade cursive handwriting book, or every participation trophy, or even all the pairs of leggings. Why have all the stuff sit around? Someone else can find use for it, or it can be recycled to something new. Clearing things from my room has been a challenge, but I’m realizing I don’t need all that crap in my life. I can hold onto to those things in my heart and mind. The empty space feels nice too.
10. Appreciate And Thank Your Tribe
Not everyone who comes into your life will hold a special meaning. But when you come across someone who supports your goals and guides you in the right direction, hold onto them. Appreciate their generosity, kindness, and love. It’s so rare to find people who genuinely care about you. You’ll know you’ve found a good friend when you find one, and you’ll realize that it’s about the quality of people you have in your life not the quantity. Don’t ever forgot to thank the ones who are on your mind at the end of each day. Everyone deserves recognition for what they do.
What I did for myself: I am so blessed to have such a strong and loving family who I can count on for everything and anything. They are the rocks that keep me grounded. I am lucky that found my own good vibe tribe who I adore more than anything. (You know who you are) These people constantly remind me of my worth. I am always thanking them for their friendship and loving every moment we spend together. My tribe are the people I can go weeks without seeing but can call in pinch when I need support and guidance. These people lift me up, and I know I do the same for them.
What I did for myself may be so different from what you need to do for yourself. Change doesn’t happen overnight. If you put the time and effort into taking care of yourself, you will see a positive change.